Maintenance Behaviors in Romantic Relationships

Please take this only if you are in a current romantic relationship.

I am currently:
married cohabitating in a commited dating relationship engaged other

If other, please describe:

Would you consider your current romantic relationship to be:
long distance short distance

How many miles apart do you and your partner live?

How often do you see your partner in person? (not including skype or video calls)
Daily A few times a week A few times a month A few times a year other,

If other, please describe:

What is the length of your current romantic relationship in years?

My current romantic relationship is:
Heterosexual Homosexual

What is your age?

What is your gender?
Male Female

What is your race?


Think about your current romantic relationship. Indicate the degree to which you agree with each item.

I act positively with my partner
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I flirt with others to make my partner jealous
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I am understanding of my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I can talk to my partner about my fears.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I comment on how attractive others are to make my partner jealous.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I avoid my partner when I do not want to deal with him/her.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I talk about future events with my partner (e.g., having children, or anniversaries, or retirement, etc.).
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I can discuss the quality of our relationship with my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I share the joint responsibilites that face us.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I include our friends in our activities.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I am upbeat when we are together.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I am forgiving of my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I avoid interacting with my partner when he/she is angry with me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I am open about my feelings.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I avoid topics that lead to arguments.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I will not talk about a subject if it upsets me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I tell my partner how I feel about the relationship.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I make sure I know everyone who is calling him/her.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I check his/her email or cell phone for messages.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I talk to his/her friends to get information about him/her.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I talk about our plans for the future to my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I have affairs with other people so I can stay satisfied with my relationship.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I help perform household resposibilities.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I flirt with other people to keep myself from getting bored
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I fight with my partner when I am upset.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I do things with our friends.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I start arguments with my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I act cheerfully with my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I encourage my partner to share his/her feelings with me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I have talks about our relationship.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I try to control my partnerís behavior.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I tell my partner what to do.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I break plans with my friends to spend more time with my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I apologize when I am wrong.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I spend less time with my family because of my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I help out with the tasks that need to be done.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I spend time with our families.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I act optimistically when my partner is with me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I do not judge my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I ask our family members for help.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I have stopped doing activities I enjoy because my partner doesnít enjoy them.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I tell my partner how much he/she means to me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I turn to our family members for advice.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I encourage my partner to share his/her thoughts with me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I let my partner make decisions for me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I show my partner how much he/she means to me.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I skip out on other responsibilities because of my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree


Think about your current romantic relationship. Indicate the degree to which you agree with each item.

I am committed to maintaining this relationship
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I like my partner very much.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

Both of us are satisfied with the way we handle decisions
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

My partner's good points far outweigh his/her bad points.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

It is unlikely that this relationship will end in the near future.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

My partner is one of the most likeable people I know.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

We agree on what we can expect from one another.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

My partner is the sort of person whom I myself would like to be.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

There are no others I want to get to know romantically.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I admire my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

We are attentive to each other's comments.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

We both have an equal say.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I do not want another romantic partner
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

We are co-operative with each other.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I feel very satisfied with my current relationship.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

Overall, I am satisfied with my relationship.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I am very satisfied with my partner.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree

I want this relationship to last as long as possible.
Strongly Agree Strongly disagree